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Los Angeles Friends and The Burden of Things Read, or How I Learn.

Los Angeles Friends and The Burden of Things Read, or How I Learn.

Amaya Gutierrez
Amaya Gutierrez

Every morning at 10:15, coffee brews from Nespresso machines, there's a quick text, and two women gather on the phone to powwow. Life, randomness, and in theory, work is the subject of their facetime call (powwows are typically business, casual, but business, of which business almost never happens). They chat and talk about EVERYTHING they know, nothing too serious nor too simple, but an ongoing conversation around what has been read or heard. No mistake ever happens on these calls, not even the millions of interruptions made by each other, ideas fly and consistently spark the other.

This is so interesting! This one book, ugh, can't remember where I found it, but it says that if you apply the Socratic method to your life, meaning ask a gazillion questions, you'll find the one question to answer your problems. You see, life is about asking the right questions. Think of what you ask yourself all the time. If we can see the pattern, we'll know how to go on with our lives!

Hah! What you said reminds me of the one time I had to go to the jury. Have you ever been to the jury? I'm amazed at the level of thinking of the lawyers. The way they had to update and rephrase their questions on the go, the moment the defense would object, the prosecutor came back with a zappy rephrase. Is the legal system based on the Socratic method?

Interesting! I wonder how does this apply to our life? But what does it mean? How do you know if you ask the right questions? What makes a good question? Why do we have to ask questions?

Well, I guess it all depends! What type of questions do you want to ask? What problem are you trying to solve? Are you asking mindful questions that open your mind? I guess the best combo would be question life with what, how, why? If you think of a problem, can you get to the bottom of it by asking what, why, how? To know if you're interested?

Yesterday I was reading a newsletter in which this guy only talks about brief things. I love how it's not too long to read, who has time for a long read anyway. And he recommends things he read that week. There was this fascinating article about how is it that we learn? I'm going to destroy this, but primarily, we learn by experience, by doing what we don't know what to do. I've noticed that it is much faster to learn when you jump into a project. Not the idea of I'll do this maybe later project, but jumping into it like if it was a paid project that you have to deliver.

Working on someone else's projects (aka a job or freelance) allows you to focus on what you have to do, whether you know how to do it or not. Most likely, you'll figure it out. You see, I'm a believer that we have unlimited potential and intelligence to learn how to do anything. It's a matter of what story you're telling yourself. If you tell yourself, "I'm not good at math," guess what you won’t be."

So you have to wear multiple hats? To think like a chef or like an athlete or a mom? Try to figure out how you can do things differently?

Don't worry. Nobody knows what they're doing anyway. You see, I find books to be like an Ikea instructions booklet. You can 100% build the furniture on your own and not looking at that thing ever. But I bet you will be frustrated 99% of the time. And the furniture might wobble a bit. Instead, if you look at the booklet, you can see all the tools you need. You can fast forward a couple of pages and understand how things might shape up, and learning what to do page by page allows you to focus on the present moment.

We are sharing insights that expand the understanding of the limits of the human experience, whether we talk about organization (apps, smart note systems) or reflection (ayahuasca and mushroom trips).

Have you ever wondered how to replicate the ideas you get from conversations with friends? How can you do this when you're talking on paper? What is it about a conversation that triggers the rapid-fire of information in your mind? The connecting dots when you speak, but I'm not sure how to unleash it on the page - I think I have glances of it when I'm reading a book, and I'm taking notes. That's when my mind starts to ask too many questions and begins to associate thoughts and the content of the book to my life.

Sometimes it feels like I'm having a conversation with the author. Some authors challenge you to think. Some are outstanding storytellers. What are you naturally inclined to read about? Perhaps the best way to find out is to start writing about it. Writing can be the means to externalize your thoughts, just like the Pensieve in the Harry Potter books.

That is what I learn. The why? I don't know, to express my true self, and by understanding the human experience, I can start to relate and find what speaks to the truth inside myself.

Do you think there's an app that prompts you with helpful questions? Wait let me Google it, keyboard keyboard keyboard… Why is there no app for this? What's the point of doing all this?

Probably to let all things come out. Wait, what time is it? Ugh! We probably have to go back.

I'll text you later! Bye!

Based on:

Actual conversations with friends and some books read.